Psychologist's advice
Our life consists of events and reactions to these events, moreover, I would like to note that most of these events and reactions go through our heads and definitely affect the level of our happiness or unhappiness … Well, then, as a consequence, all other areas of our life… such as health, relationships, success… This year of my active psychological practice is 22 years old and I decided… from work experience, observations of the World, myself and people, to present my personal concept of happiness. And so, if you want to be happy, remove only seven “O”s from your life:
A measure or assessment is a complex and ambiguous concept, that for one person death is good for another, which means that if we evaluate something or someone, we initially miss the opportunity to understand or accept more, to expand our awareness of the situation. And here it is important to remember that devaluing or overestimating someone is a form of fear that manifests itself in such a convenient and understandable way. Everything is valuable, but rather it would be more correct to say, even priceless, since it was created by the will of the Higher powers. WE REMOVE CATEGORICAL RATINGS!
There is no guilt, it is a symbolic way to maintain relationships or illusions when other forms, less co-dependent, have not come into the practice of cooperation in the process of life. Guilt is a pumping of energies in a very convenient and affordable way. And so offended – only those who benefit from being offended. When offended, there is something to think about and take time, the inner voids of mental space can easily be filled with resentment. We are not alone with grievances; our offender is always with us. WE LET GO OFFENSES AND ACCUSATIONS!
This is a way to connect to someone else’s life by discouraging your shadow side of “I”. After all, everything that revolts us so much in someone, that we condemn it, is our shadow repressed, unrecognized part of ourselves, which so safely finds a civilized way out into the real spaces of our consciousness. After all, we can’t afford this, for a number of reasons, then at least we’ll talk about it … WE GET RID OF THE HABIT OF JUDGING!
They are the remnants of children’s directives “You are not like that”, so you have to constantly make excuses that “I am like that” can still be. Excuses steal from a person the energy of creativity and freedom of expression, the will to make oneself according to one’s dream template. After all, somewhere far away in the depths of censorship for many years now, parents or society have drawn a portrait of “Such”, which everyone wants to see, comfortable and convenient. But I hasten to upset you (by the way, this is 8 “O”) You still won’t like some, and someone won’t love you, and you will annoy someone and this is the norm. This is the law of energy exchange. Therefore, it is better to rely on your tuning fork of values and draw yourself with independent choices. WE ARE HEALING FROM JUSTIFICATIONS TO OTHERS!
It seems to us that someone owes something, and we can wait for this all our lives, fantasizing that “He” knows how to understand us correctly or how to love us correctly for ourselves, but alas. And this is often the biggest myth of our life… After all, we ourselves do not really know ourselves, since all life is a road to ourselves. So, how can someone understand what is not yet understood or known by us. Exploring yourself, you can catch your desires, needs and motives, gently harmonize them with people close to you and rejoice. And if they accept you and your desires, then you will follow the same path of life … if not, then you have everything ahead and you have a lot of work in knowing yourself. No one can help us if we do not understand what help we need. WE EXPECT ONLY FROM OURSELVES!
Often we ourselves build restrictions and fences of possibilities, without even trying, but can we do it. With the help of restrictions, we ourselves castrate our potential for achievement and the flow of new things, drawing hasty conclusions from someone else’s experience or social stereotypes. But in life everything is different … and removing your limitations is very scary … but often it is simply necessary. Only the brave take cities. It is convenient to control your life with the help of restrictions, but there is also a more advanced level – responsible freedom. BREAKING OUR LIMITS!
Sometimes, when by chance or on purpose we are fascinated by someone or something, not noticing the reverse side of the medal, and the polarity from which everything in this world is woven … we consider with delight only the front side of an event, situation, person, forgetting that there is a wrong side … not very attractive at all. We fall into the trap of emotional and sensory responses, we ignore logic and pragma, and as a result we get a large dose of disappointment, which is quite often difficult to digest. If you don’t want to be disappointed, don’t be charmed, everything is everything, and in the beautiful there is a share of the disgusting, and in the most vile there is a share of the perfect, everything is polar. DOSE THE CHARM!
I think if we learn how to properly interact with these “O”s in our lives … The world will fill us with other wonderful “O” such as: discovery and encouragement, communication and revitalization, optimism and experience, rest and responsiveness, openness and embrace, release and awareness … And there will definitely be an opportunity to HAPPY YOURSELF AND THE WORLD.
Victoria Nazarevich
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