About the burden and severity of our life

Let’s think about why it’s so hard for us to live? We carry a load, a cross, duties, ratings of debt to the World, and this is absolutely correct and logical. The chain of evolution is arranged in such a way that everything will develop and become more complicated, and, in particular, our lives. I want to immediately indicate by default that everyone experiences certain stresses from life, and this is the norm. Is it easy for a butterfly to spread its wings after a cocoon, for an ant to pull a blade of grass into an anthill, or for a bee to fly around thousands of flowers for one gram of honey? Is it easy for a bear to survive a hungry winter, for a squirrel to remember all the places where she hid acorns, for a cat to beg for her favorite treat from the owner? Was it easy for us to be born? Not easy at all, but necessary. Of course, everyone has their own level of difficulty – this is true. And here, of course, it’s better than a poetic word, and you won’t say it.

Know that everyone has a different “pain”,
Know that everyone has a different “scary”.
Do not judge from your bell tower
It is not known how many floors.

Don’t draw boundaries
Don’t think of limits with your brain.
What do you dream in a terrible dream,
For some, it’s business as usual.

Know that everyone has a different “need”,
Know that everyone has a different “difficulty”.
However, the representation of hell
It is impossible to generalize and compare.

Know that the truth is different
Not the one that comes on a platter.
Take a closer look at those whose fates frighten
These are the strongest people.

© Zlatencia Zolotova
https://www.inpearls.ru/

One thing is a pity that only a person spends so much energy to keep these difficulties, and still often cultivates them as the main meaning of life. So, this is his hidden source of strength and resource. So hidden that he hides it from himself. And if you start to explore “hard”, then most of the statistical answers will lead us to the fact that “hard” is nothing more than a need for change, an inability to accept reality … After all, in 90% of cases we create our own “hard” and change him even more “hard”.

Here is another interesting proof that we just want change when we declare to everyone that it is difficult for us. Let’s think about the root of this word and think: “labor” is a purposeful, conscious human activity aimed at satisfying needs. “Work-but” takes on a completely different meaning. Part of the word “but” is doubt, almost a hidden denial of the above. In other words, when it is DIFFICULT for us, we no longer want to do it. Please pay attention: it is not that we cannot, but we do not want to.

Fantasizing about the image of the cargo. Often the load is nothing but our social and spiritual accumulations of understanding of opportunities and dangers, anticipation of responsibilities and duties. And as you know, our knowledge and fears often deprive us of the ability to take risks, be bold and decisive, since understanding the possible options paralyzes us to action. By the way, “cargo” in the technical jargon of water transport workers was encountered as a word form of the local case – v gruz (about the ship).

Let’s think about what are the main loads we pull in life:

Fear of the future – deprives new opportunities.

Fear of evaluation – deprives us of the opportunity to manifest.

Fear of punishment destroys independence and maturity.

Fear of failure keeps you from experiencing the joy of achievement.

Fear of relationships – steals the blessing of mutual feelings.

Fear of change leads to the collapse of hopes.

Fear of betrayal leads to loneliness.

Fear of pain – provides complete emptiness and loneliness.

Fear of losing control – steals peace and gives paranoia.

Fear of error – leads to laziness and loss of interest in everything in the world.

Fear of rejection – leads to self-depreciation and the loss of one’s desires.

Fear of loss – threatens with a lack of freedom and addictions.

Fear of helplessness – will ensure the complete depletion of resources.

The fear of death will not let you feel life itself.

But why this is all to us, I found out quite by accident. Once she showed the “POTS +” method, and one participant, clearly exhausted by her duties and, as a result, by life itself, described her potty on her head as a terrible burden. But when she, having drawn the contents, marked the drawing “this is all mine and all dear,” her pot miraculously became light and dear. And when asked why he was needed, she said: “In order to reliably walk the earth towards your goal.” How this happens in our metaphorical intellect, I do not know. Sometimes our load and heaviness is the resource that leads to goals. Otherwise, we would be swept away into a world of illusions, and we might not exactly find our way back to reality.