Self-manifestation – brilliance and radiance, or What prevents us from showing ourselves to the world

Previously, it was shameful and ugly to show oneself, often even punished by society. Any self-manifestation was almost a form of mental pathology. But now we have no opportunity not to appear. You must be known in order to be selected as a person, love, partner, skill, service, technology, or any other life process in which you have installed yourself. After all, a person as such acquires qualities and becomes someone who, of course, is necessary for society. And its uniqueness and uniqueness are the factors that lead to success. If you are seen and known, then even your shortcomings are now sold better than the reference standard – such is the paradox of modernity. Hence self-mania and social profiles, which are conducted not by their owners, but by specially trained specialists who, behind every word and photo, reveal the best or special features of the customer. What time – such and mores. And therefore, there is no possibility for us not to manifest. It becomes a survival mechanism in the modern world.

The more people know about you, the easier it is to find “their own” in the world of information, overflowing with a variety of polar options and stretched to the limit of the norm.

So, self-manifestation and demonstration of one’s characteristics is now an unconditional norm and even a rule, but for many it is very uncomfortable and unpleasant. I understand that this is scary and even dangerous, but there is a price for everything, and now this price is the publicity of our lives. As a psychologist, I can calm everyone down. Previously, only the best was public: the best films that were selected for a long time and with high quality, presenters and announcers who had impeccable vocabulary and grammar of speech – the world was ruled by “sameness” and someone invented impeccability, which then had a clear meaning for the survival of society as a form of management them. But now this is completely irrelevant. We get used to any, even the strangest, forms of self-manifestation of people and technologies, to fakes and freaks, orthodox and radicals, archaic and non-traditional, carriers of conditional truth and unconditional liars, often with the inability to separate one from the other. And therefore, even if your self-manifestation is, in your opinion, “not exactly like that” – believe me, the World will forgive, or rather, it doesn’t care. But if you do not show up, you may simply not be found.

I remember a conversation with one young lady, whom I asked how girls find boyfriends now. To which I received a completely accessible answer: write a clear resume for the site, and it will be found; “normal” people work, they have no time to look for relationships in real life. I went in the evening, checked the database, if someone is interested, it makes sense to continue and waste time. Probably, in this phrase there is a great wisdom of the modern world. A clear idea of yourself is the key to success so that the world does not waste time identifying and understanding you. It becomes similar to the world of birds: the mating season has begun – we sing in one voice, danger – in another, interest – in a third, and everything is clear. There is too much information now to complicate things. We do not have time for long trips to the library and searching the catalogs for the right word, everything is faster and easier, because there is too much of everything.

We do not complicate… Complication becomes a rudimentary structure of a society which becomes obsolete. The simpler – the better, the clearer – the faster, the faster – the more effective, the more effective – the more successful. That’s the whole logic, and the whole world is now imprisoned for the universalism of everything. This is the main technological challenge of our time. And we are no exception. Believe me, the world does not even have time to criticize for more than three days for the most terrible sin. It will simply go into the archive of history, and no more.

Fear of self-manifestation, insecurity, inability to show oneself as a part of the system or not reveal one’s abilities become a terrible mistake. So, how does creativity help create yourself and show the world?

The easiest method is to do it as a joke, without much expectation of the result. You should imagine the most successful and desirable version of yourself and begin to designate yourself in this way in the world. This, of course, is the most real life creation, but without it now there is nowhere.

Let us designate the successful rules of self-manifestation:

Show yourself as honestly as possible, at least in front of you;

Understand the meaning of each action;

Designate any actions, looking into the future for at least 3-5 years;

Do not listen to the opinion of others if it does not make sense;

Do not give in to doubts, if they overcome – listen, whose voice they speak in you;

try again;

And try again;

And so at least 3000 times until the first result (this is the statistics of success).

It is important to remember that it is not the manifestation of ourselves that frightens us, but how others will react to it. Although in the statistics of life itself, important people leave and are replaced by more important ones, and perhaps you are ready to change both yourself and others around you.

Author: Victoria Nazarevich 2019 ©