If earlier the experience of ancestors was necessary for survival, now we have access to the experience of all mankind in one click.
Therefore, a global process of loss of authority is taking place in the world. A child can easily verify any statement of a parent, and an adult cannot rely on the experience of his grandparents, realizing that their lifestyle and life response scenarios are utopian in modern conditions.
So what to do? How to find the inevitable and so necessary compromise between generations? A generation that grew up in the era of one black-and-white TV with two channels and a generation whose thinking system was laid down in the era of a mosaic-clicky search engine of reality.
Let’s try to consider a few theses that will make us think about this issue:
- If earlier, it was necessary to comply with the standards and rules of your tribe, otherwise you were expelled as an unnecessary and superfluous, often threatening element for the survival of the entire community, then in the modern era, having changed your status in social networks, you will find a lot of like-minded people and resources for your social reinforcement and self-determination. And it remains for us to treat with deep understanding the people with whom we arrive in the same real space and no more. Realizing that everyone shares only their own unique opinion.
- If earlier a book was an information source and their choice was rather limited, the whole family watched one movie, everyone had approximately the same level of interest and information field, now there is even a special channel for cats, and each family member has his own portal for receiving information. And they are all different. One must accept the difference and difference of the other as a fact and a condition for the survival of the whole species. And if you prove something, then you need to be informatively prepared for counterarguments.
- If earlier, due to many shortages, only the experience of our people, an organic locality with its traditions and habits, was available to us. The possibility of open borders and a single mobile space gives a chance to try and rationalize the experience of other ethnic groups and nationalities, which certainly expands one’s own choice of reality and removes many archaic attitudes. Development occurs through the knowledge of the world in the fullness of one’s own choice. And here accepting the choice of another is rather an indicator of wisdom.
- If before, basically the attitudes and self-images of a person were formed through the family space. Now, one photo on Instagram will provide an opportunity to get a lot of opinions, often completely polar and different, which strengthens the personal boundaries of the individual, subject to their basic health. And false family attitudes, which used to be firmly rooted in modern children, are just an opinion and it is simply impossible to keep them for a long time.
- If earlier, the personal experience of a significant person was the basis of worldview and the structure of the worldview, now its place is occupied by collective experience. Everyone can find a statistically correct way to solve a problem and independently learn almost everything they want through YouTube. Each is his own teacher. And of course, one has to accept the fact that a person, as a technology, becomes obsolete quite quickly and irrevocably with his personal miserable experience. After all, even when buying a banal thing, you can watch a hundred video reviews and know all the pros and cons.
- If earlier the world was forced to maintain many connections and communications in order to solve its actual problems if necessary, now the quality of communications has changed dramatically and the necessary connections have become those that make a person productive and efficient, resourceful and filled, and all other connections can be bought corny , as a favor, or to get rid of this uncomfortable destructive communication, simply interrupting them without regret. The basis of healthy personal communication boundaries is flexibility, accepting what helps and avoiding what destroys.
And how important it is that in family relationships you want to maintain these communications, so that you are not condemned and devalued, not subject to criticism and assessments (often false and subjective), but create space in the family for the growth and development of everyone. Accepting and understanding the trends of the time, the individuality, originality and uniqueness of everyone on earth with words of impeccable love and support. With the understanding that there are no mistakes, but there is an experience that is inevitable and necessary for survival … since my experience in 3 years will no longer be effective for my matured child. And he will say: … – Mom, you don’t know anything, they googled it.
Victoria Nazarevich 2019
