How to Build Self-Confidence—or Your Confidence

How to Build Self-Confidence—or Your Confidence

Task 1. You need to determine if you really need confidence
I know for sure that if a person is not confident in himself, then he does not want to have confidence. One client of mine, a naturally timid and modest person, only made his way to building inner confidence when he became a department head at a large firm.
1. Draw a picture “I’m not sure”
2. Figure 2 “I have confidence”
3. Compare two drawings which will give you confidence, if the drawings are identical then you may not need more confidence.

Task 2. Create your “Uncertain Doll”
1. From paper, scraps, plasticine or other materials, make a doll that you like.
2. On a piece of paper, describe why the doll is insecure.
3. Then describe what needs to be done to make the doll confident.
4. Remake the doll more confident.
The process is long but very effective!

Task 3. Test yourself
1. Can I say no.
2. Can I speak openly about feelings and demands.
3. Can I establish contacts, start and end conversations.
4. Can I openly express positive and negative feelings.
5. Can I treat mistakes as tasks for the future.

If you do not have all the answers “yes”, then take the advice from task 4.

Task 4. Draw on a piece of paper each of your reactions to the advice, but only one detail. As a result, you will get a picture, this picture shows the whole process of taking advice.
• Focus on success
• Create a ritual to congratulate yourself on this success.
• Program healthy pleasure, not suffering.
• Better to be a winner than a victim.
• Forgive yourself for mistakes.
• Don’t shift the blame onto others – this is a sign of powerlessness.
• Equally, do not go too far, blaming only yourself.
• Love yourself and body and soul.
• Success confidence easy communication.
• Adequately accept help, support, and advice when you need it.
• Treat yourself well. Your self-respect will never rise if you don’t treat yourself right.
• Learn to listen without judging or comparing as these are (judging and comparing) barriers in relationships.
• Know how to say “no”. We are often too quick to agree to do what is asked of us, out of fear of disapproval or anger from other people, or considering ourselves “nice” only if we gave in to someone to please. Say “no” to please yourself rather than agree to please others.
• Give up chatter, complaints, the desire for revenge, all powerless aspirations that undermine your integrity and personal strength.
• Remember that you are not perfect – and this is quite normal. You are a person who can make mistakes and correct your mistakes.
• Recognize yourself for who you are – unique, original, human.
• Live in the present and you will get more satisfaction from life.
The picture can be framed and hung in a prominent place, even looking at such a picture can add confidence!
Task 5. If something is not very clear, then you can always turn to a psychologist.
It is always easier to go through the tunnel of uncertainty with a psychologist, he will explain to you all your reactions and patterns, and help you get rid of the deeper causes of uncertainty. Good luck!

Nazarevich Victoria