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\nFear does not bypass any of us. Practicing family psychologist Irina Obukhova spoke about the features of fears and phobias and ways to cope with them.<\/p>\n

Like a shadow, fear follows us relentlessly from birth. Sometimes the older we get, the more destructive its influence, and this topic has not lost its relevance in all ages.<\/p>\n

THE FAULTS OF PANIC ATTACKS<\/p>\n

It would be useful to say that fear is a useful thing that ensures survival in our world. But it loses its protective function when it becomes excessive. As soon as we get into a situation that resembles some kind of long-standing nightmare, we immediately begin to live it again and again, as if we were on an investigative experiment. We have clear signs of a panic attack, which can attack several times a day. It is hard to believe, but about a hundred million people in the world suffer from this disaster. Moreover, 75% are women between the ages of twenty and forty.<\/p>\n

Panic attacks can be provoked by chronic stress, a serious illness, severe emotional shock (dismissal from work, divorce, death of a loved one), or excessive physical exertion. Attacks are always unexpected, short-term (from one minute to an hour), manifested by rapid heartbeat, the appearance of trembling, sweating, pain in the chest, abdomen, while it seems that you are suffocating. Such a clearly expressed episode of discomfort, psychosomatic and, no doubt, not posing a threat to life. But this state can literally drive into a stupor, acquire uncontrolled power. At these moments, we lose the ability to reason sensibly and falsely interpret these symptoms as signs of a dangerous disease. When panic attacks become the norm, most people withdraw into themselves, becoming either lethargic and passive, or, conversely, winding up with a half turn. In order to fight fears, you need to know their nature.<\/p>\n

NATURE OF MONSTERS<\/p>\n

Inborn fears appear in our mother’s womb and are caused by stimuli that we have never encountered. The strongest fright in us can cause complete darkness, a bright flash or a loud sound.<\/p>\n

We are all woven from introjects, from birth we perceive them subconsciously – we swallow them without chewing. Everyone can remember something of their own: \u201cAll men are theirs …\u201d, \u201cLife is a hard thing\u201d, \u201cIt can\u2019t always be good\u201d, \u201cFirst think about others, and then about yourself\u201d, \u201cWe must hurry – the earthly path is short\u201d . And when the boys are told: \u201cYou need to be strong, overcome yourself,\u201d they are brainwashed so that they do not feel anything. We enter a certain scenario without thinking, and rarely anyone gets out of the usual rut. Negative attitudes form fears and phobias that can haunt us all our lives.<\/p>\n

The same fear manifests itself differently in different people. One was bitten by a dog in childhood, and he will definitely never bring a puppy into the house, and when even the most good-natured dog appears on the horizon, he will bypass him, experiencing conditioned reflex fear. And no one has ever bitten the other, but he still does not trust dogs, everywhere he sees hungry, aggressive packs, even if they are not even in sight. And here the whole question is in the threshold of anxiety.
\nMany believe that fear and phobia are phenomena of the same order. But this is not true. There is usually something real behind the fear that really threatens health and well-being, and this provokes a person to take certain actions. For example, people who are afraid of poverty work hard, but even with an increase in funds in their account, fear does not leave them. But behind phobias there is often something completely unreal, far-fetched. There are people who cannot be forced to enter an elevator or go down the subway (claustrophobia). This speaks of the pathology behind which they hide. Once in a dangerous place, they become numb, cold and would rather stand in a traffic jam for hours in their own car or walk kilometers on foot. It is important for a person suffering from phobias to understand that behind this lies a completely different, unresolved problem.<\/p>\n

Statistics show that there are about five hundred phobias in the world, among them – fear of heights, darkness, depth, closed or open space. Almost all phobias are caused by an ordinary neurosis. It doesn’t matter whether a person is afraid of getting burned in a fire, being late, or catching an incurable disease – in all cases, the reaction is neurotic in nature. As well as the widespread mania of an excellent student, when a person must always be the first.<\/p>\n

PRESTIGIOUS FEARS<\/p>\n

Surprisingly, even in this subtle sphere there is a similar hierarchy. Fears are considered prestigious when they are built strictly on service relationships. Many people are afraid of everything that can shake their authority, lower their status, in a word, change their social position. The most striking realization of this fear is the notorious principle \u201cKeep your head down!\u201d. For this reason, many try not to interfere in controversial situations, preferring to pass by without expressing their point of view. But it should be borne in mind that this tactic can lead to complications of a more global order – distrust of oneself. This category also includes the fear of public speaking, the eternal fear for their appearance and, in general, the fear of their own failure. Falling in your own eyes is the most popular fear in the category of prestige fears. Sometimes a person lives for years under this oppression in anticipation of a catastrophe. The world collapses when there is even a hypothetical possibility of losing the respect of others.<\/p>\n

The 21st century has also given rise to a fear of a gigantic, vain metropolis devouring a grain of sand. Mankind every century goes further and further away from nature, from itself, and as a result, fears multiply, becoming one more amazing than the other. From newborns and instantly becoming convex: enissaphobia – fear of criticism, atichiphobia – fear of failure, ergasiophobia – fear of any work, pathophobia – fear of getting sick, ecophobia – fear of one’s home, agoraphobia – fear of the world (a person stops leaving the house), klinomania – obsessive desire lying in bed in the absence of objective medical indications for this.<\/p>\n

\u2026AND NON-PRESTIGE<\/p>\n

As for non-prestigious fears, there are also a lot of them, and they concern the domestic sphere. Many are familiar with the fear of spiders (arachnophobia), even images of these arthropods, cockroaches, mice, snakes and other reptiles. People obsessed with this genetic fear even avoid going out into nature so as not to be subjected to their nightmare again. From time immemorial there has been a fear of water, depth. Hypsophobia – the fear of heights – is just as common. Moreover, as an isolated manifestation, it can also be observed in practically healthy people. However, there are individuals who experience unpleasant emotions, barely climbing onto a stool or looking down even from the second floor. They are afraid to experience dizziness, lose consciousness and fall down.<\/p>\n

Today, germophobia is gaining momentum – the fear of germs, viruses, infections and infection in general. It is clear that it has nothing to do with banal disgust. This is a disease of obsession when a person brushes his teeth for hours, soaks in the bathroom, does not want to touch anything without gloves, and washes his hands a hundred times a day. Sometimes this fear takes on a shade of horror in front of one disease, for example, cancer – cancerophobia. In this case, people live only by prevention and constantly take tests. Hemaphobia, the fear of other people’s blood, and hematophobia, the fear of one’s own blood, are also not uncommon. But phengophobia – the fear of sunlight – is less common today.<\/p>\n

SAFE SELF-TREATMENT<\/p>\n

Sometimes we can deal with fears on our own. For example, you can decide on an experiment and act by provocation – deliberately reinforcing all negative reactions. Some people in safe conditions deliberately create scary situations for themselves, for example, stand on a chair and imagine themselves on the edge of a cliff, and really, to the point of trembling in the knees, or, being afraid of closed spaces, they still go to sunbathe in spas, where they are covered, – and … successfully recover from fears on their own.<\/p>\n

In all other cases, professional advice is indispensable. To begin with, in the psychologist\u2019s office, the very nature of a particular fear is clarified and what is really hidden behind it (the so-called rule of \u201csticky emotions\u201d). For example, it often happens that a person does not allow himself to be angry, to openly express his emotions, and this feeling, of course, is vented in a different way. It is also important to determine the depth of fear: for some, it is just a fright, a slight, fleeting fear that is eliminated without significant problems, while for others it is obsessive, acute, developed into a phobia, where treatment is required more methodical and systematic.<\/p>\n

MAKE A FILM ABOUT YOURSELF<\/p>\n

A popular technique for dealing with fear is \u201cchanging personal history.\u201d Specialists who know how to work with it will certainly help those whose fear bacillus appeared in early childhood. This method allows, as it were, to reboot the memory, where the traumatic event no longer seems terrible, and, importantly, in the future something like this will not cause a flurry of negativity in a person. For example, if a girl was attacked by a rapist on the street in her youth, moving to another area will not save her, but going through this traumatic situation with the help of a psychologist – and thereby getting rid of it – will give its result.<\/p>\n

To get rid of the negative emotions associated with experiencing a recent extreme incident, the technique of rapid treatment of phobias will help. It is based on the maximum removal from the frightening phenomenon. You can ask your friends to help you and make a film about yourself, where you will do everything that you were previously unable to do, and permanently remove those obstacles that interfered. When the film is ready, watch it from a different distance. For example, if you are afraid of heights, then it will be effective to see yourself on the screen approaching the edge of a cliff… First, imagine that you are looking at yourself from the first row of the cinema, then from the last, and finally from afar – from the balcony.<\/p>\n

You can also turn to fairy tale therapy. It is effective when the client, together with the therapist, composes an optimistic ending to the fairy tale. And the very fact of speaking helps to bring old sores to the level of awareness. Various types of psychotherapy work with fears: gestalt therapy, psychoanalysis, art therapy, body-oriented therapy and others. Working with fears, phobias and panic attacks will help you forget about them forever.<\/p>\n

Irina OBUKHOVA<\/p>\n

Practicing family psychologist, full member of the European Association for Psychotherapy (EAP) and the Professional Psychotherapeutic League, co-host of the program “In the black-black room …” on Channel One, radio host.
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