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crippled but whole
\nWounded but alive
\nScratched but healed<\/p>\nTrauma is a popular topic, because as long as there is humanity, there will be so much psychological trauma. And I can say for sure: all psychological trauma can be experienced if there is a reason for life. But if not, then even without injuries a person will find a reason not to live. What underlies this choice – to be or not to be, to live or not to live – is unambiguously difficult to say, but I have seen how people survive.<\/p>\n
There is a unique, invisible and intangible power in people, which, with any pain and suffering, seemingly tearing apart the soul, again helps to endure and be happy. What is this? I’ll try to think about it.<\/p>\n
1. “The goal syndrome.” Have you ever heard of the goal syndrome? It takes its foundation from childhood, when parents gently and gently encourage the child to bring things to their logical conclusion. Remove toys, put on tights (and oh, how difficult it is for a two-year-old to do this), wash the dishes after you. In any case, put an end to it. And an adult grows up who knows how to bring things to a result, and even if there are sharp turns of fate, he will accept them as a difficulty that must be overcome and move on. I think we should always wait and see how it ends.<\/p>\n
2. “I-can syndrome.” I love this mechanism, when a person competes with himself. The mechanism is interesting, perhaps not very healthy, but effective. If just one person did it, then I can too. Please do not confuse it with competition with someone, although this also works. Internal competition in the middle of oneself is probably an important part of survival and achievement and opens up the limitless potential of the Self in a person. And the phrase \u201cI will survive because I can\u201d is very inspiring.<\/p>\n
3. “Juggling with meanings.” One of the tricks of our dodgy brain is to change and replace meanings. If we have come up with, tamed the meaning of what to live for, then not a single injury is terrible for us. The whole history of mankind is the history of meanings, and now is the most successful period: we can finally choose them ourselves. And here all the magic of meaning formation begins to work to the fullest: if one meaning does not work, come up with another one. After all, what does marketing do? He trades in meanings. The same is declared by the psychology of trauma – come up with something for which you live.<\/p>\n
4. “I don’t believe in trauma.” I saw stories in which people, going through the most difficult events, lived them easily and moved on. Just because they themselves did not believe that it was a trauma, they called it – just life. But life is different. Always half the world is crying, half the world is jumping. And such Faith gave strength to cope, to regenerate the soul from pain and suffering. Faith works miracles – and that’s the truth.<\/p>\n
These are the thoughts that came to mind on this occasion.<\/p>\n
If you want to be traumatic – be! But this is not necessary: \u200b\u200bwe have the tremendous power of the reality of our defense mechanisms.<\/p>\n
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@Victoria Nazarevich 2020<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
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